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I live my life by Guidance.  For about 9 years, I chose to follow the guidance that I received consistently to be a “spiritual nomad”, as a friend dubbed me at the beginning of my journey.  I had no clue that this would last as long as it did.  Now that I am adjusting to having a steady home, as well as to having a reliable vehicle, what I have learned from that nomading journey is empowering me in ways I had not expected.  Below are the guidelines I received as guidance and followed nearly always; there were a few times that I was unable to fully comply with these, but I always did my best, sometimes my utmost, to do so.


Guidelines for this Spiritual Nomad:

• Ask for refuge without attachment to outcome.

One time I was in a state of desperation and couldn’t get out of it; I begged a friend to help me, and she reluctantly agreed to let me stay one night.  I was very grateful.

• Accept refuge only when it is a win-win situation.

Some situations were marginal with respect to this; sometimes my and my host’s boundaries around this were pushed, although not crossed (that I am aware of).  Sometimes it was just an okay-okay situation.

• Do not pay rent.

Every once in a while I chose to pay a little for a place to stay (a night in a cheap motel can change everything).

This guideline was dropped about 6-7 years into my journey, when my guidance shifted from “Find refuge” to “Find a home”.  I continued my nomading, asking for refuge, sometimes paying for a room for a few days or a week at a time, while I worked on finding a home.  I did live in a home for the first 5 months of the year last year, but did not find a place to settle into until early this year.

• Honor your host’s way of doing things.

I did my best with this; I hope my hosts have felt honored by me in their homes.

• Offer at least one service to your host.

Most often I would gift my host with a divination card reading.  I also developed a habit of being a “dish fairy”; I would do the dishes late in the night, leaving a clean kitchen for morning.

• Practice gratitude throughout your day.

This practice began at the onset of my journey, when I moved to Hawaii and tried to live there (the first time) on my land on the Big Island.  The transformational energies of Pele (Goddess of the volcano) were very strong for me, and during my first month there, She offered me the choice of feeling grief or gratitude.  As I was experienced a deep sense of loss in my life (including long-time friends falling away, through betrayal and blame on their part), grief was arising constantly.  I kept choosing gratitude instead, as a practice, and have continued practicing gratitude in my life ongoingly ever since.

• Practice being quiet and having little or no impact.

One member of a household I was staying with said to me, after 3 days, “You’re like a ninja, you are so quiet!”  I felt appreciated in my efforts to follow this guideline.

• Leave when asked to.

This one came more from my own established sense of ethics, based on a past experience.  Before I began my nomad’s journey, I had a friend who was without a home for a while and I offered to let him stay with me for a short while (unspecified).  After quite a while, I asked him to leave in a day or two, as soon as he could find a place to go.  He agreed.  After a week went by, he still hadn’t even tried to find another place to be.  This did not sit well with me; I handled the situation badly, in my own estimation.  Having had this bad experience with a win-win turning into a lose-lose, I chose to follow this guideline on my own journey of seeking refuge.

• Surrender in all situations.

This is and has been a key for me in my life; I do my best to surrender and allow What Is to Be.

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